Let’s get cracking. First of all, ask yourself a couple of questions about the overall scenario. 1. What is it that I want to accomplish here? 2. What are acceptable damages or losses? It may well be none! Now, take stock of the individuals in the scenario, beginning with the opponent. 1. What is he or she like? 2. What are their strong points? 3. What are their failings? 4. Do you know anything about their former story? 5. What would they commonly do? 6. How would they respond to stress or hardship? 7. With all that data, what’s an effective technique you are able to use?

Then, flip it around and ask those questions of yourself. There are 2 ways you are able to approach this information. First, ask from your own aspect. The other choice would be positioning yourself in your opponent’s shoes and asking those oppugns from there. You’ll be shocked at the insights you are able to get from that, particularly if you’re honest. It may get uncomfortable, however. Now, imagine that you have a noisy neighbor, Bob. He blasts Britney Spears at three in the morning, and keeps everybody awake. You want to do something about it, but lack the self-assertiveness.